09.22.05
Wyatt and Lucas
This is one of my favorite pictures. This was last summer, July 2004 up at Gabe’s house outside of Boston. Wyatt was 1 year old in this picture, and this was the first time Wyatt had seen Lucas in probably a couple of months, which in 1 year old time is a really long time. Wyatt was a pretty shy baby as well. But when Lucas and I first got up there, Wyatt went straight to Lucas, held out his arms for him as soon as he saw him. Then after a minute, he was like, wait a second – this isn’t my dad. It was pretty interesting to watch the realization hit his face because Gabe and Lucas not only look so much alike sometimes, but they really sound identical – and i think they just have the same feel to them that babies are good at recognizing. It was cool. This picture was taken later in the trip, Wyatt was cranky and had gotten hurt or something while playing and Lucas was lying down on the other side of the room and Wyatt just walks on over to Lucas and climbs on top of him to get a rest for a minute.
It is a little dark, but you get the idea.
JudiMom said,
September 29, 2005 at 1:48 pm
I worked so hard over the past year to try and get Lucas to be better. I have forgotton all the good things about him. Please keep posting good things for me to remember… I love you and miss you, Lucas. I want and need to remember the good things. I want everyone who reads this to do something kind for someone today in his memory… I will.
Christine said,
October 8, 2005 at 2:14 pm
It is no surprise to me that Wyatt took immediately to Lucas – when he is naming people in pictures and sees one of Lucas – he often identifies him as “Daddy”. I think Gabe and Lucas not only looked alike but shared a lot of personality traits as well. I often couldn’t help feeling like Lucas was just like Gabe – even though I never really got a chance to know Lucas super well. And the things that I love about Gabe I couldn’t help seeing and loving about Lucas too – and I am sure Wyatt did as well. Lucas was warm and fun and charming – it seems like anyone who met him (even just in passing) thought so too.
Dayna Mullins said,
October 24, 2005 at 9:16 pm
I absolutely love this picture, the two of them look so at peace. It’s confusing…and hard to believe that the same Lucas in this picture was also so troubled inside. Based on the pictures, shared stories, and my own memories I have to believe that Lucas felt happy, loved and content more often than not.
JudiMom said,
November 1, 2005 at 10:50 am
I just got back from visiting Gabe, Christine, Wyatt and new baby brother born 10-9-2005.
As part of my greiving and recovery from Lucas’s death, I had just finished reading “A Million Little Pieces” by James Frey on Sunday October 9. I was very obsessed with reading this book becasue I knew Lucas had read some or all of it. I strangly felt some closure that afternoon. Jerry and I went on to bed about 9:00 and were watching tv. The phone rang and it was Gabe to say that the new baby had been born.. No difficulties… easy delivery, nine days early and he was 9 lbs. and 7 ozs. and 21 inches long. I slept pretty well that night because Lucas was 9 lbs. 7 ozs. when he was born. I felt a fiber of Lucas in the new baby.
Gabe and Christine then officailly named him Boden Lucas Harris. I felt a second fiber of connection, not that I want him to be Lucas but just a unique tapestry of all of us, Lucas included, will be good.